Puppy Blues

 Monty is asleep for 18-20 hours a day.  The four hours he is up are rough. Especially the one that happens at 4AM.  Friday arrived with me truly ready to throw in the towel.  It wad 3 weeks of disrupted sleep. I was unfocused, ruminating and teetering on depression.  Thankfully the weekend plans were good ones that distracted me from my impending malaise. 

Matt arrived home Friday night, I was in full zombie mode by then and only looking forward to sleep as Steve agreed to be on dog duty for the weekend. Saturday was Justine's baby shower which was great, so good to see all of the people from Steve's side that we have not seen in so long.  Sunday was a small BBQ with my brother, sister and their spouses as well as Chris and Mark. The food was great of course because well Steve. It was a really good day. 

Sunday night was my first good night sleep.  I woke up feeling like myself for the first time in weeks. I really hope that Monty sleeps all night soon.  School starts tomorrow I am both dreading it and looking forward to it! 

Aint life grand?

One week in, and it aint pretty people. I am stressed to a new level. The cramped space is a lot to adjust to. Well let's say this we are not suffering as people do, and I know they do. We have a kitchen, we have a bathroom, we have a bedroom with enough space for all 5 beds and dressers. We have a table we can squeeze around for a meal. But oh my are we on top of each other! Steven and I find our selves snapping too quickly. I feel on the edge of tears often. We worked so hard last weekend.
Oh yes last weekend. The move. The painful, poorly planned move. Mostly because of my inability to pack. We had Friday night a crew of young people, a student teacher from my school, her BF and his brother. We barely made a dent. The next day the ST, the brother, 3 laborers, a friend, and another who took the kids out. More progress but still bad shape the next day. All day, buyers practically tapping their toes, waiting for the keys, we finally got the last spoon out of that house. It was seriously exhausting.
Now of course we had our anniversary. We are almost too tired to care, but we did and we do. Now we are here.
The house we want to buy is months away from ready. So I must get it together. Oh so boring but true, I must attempt the whole "be strong" thing again. But really who isn't "being strong" about something at any given time?
Besides I have Myrtle Beach to think about now. Oh the packing!

Monty is going back to the breeder

 Just a few days ago I was nostalgic for my young family, those years where there lives simply centered right here at home, where the power of my hug could heal most wounds.  When I got a  front row seat to witness each of their accomplishments, even when those very accomplishments carried them further and further away from me. From their first steps to their first day on campus. I can't even read my past posts because they make me cry and nostalgia is not a good look and often a complete distortion of reality. 

I was recently reminded of some of the harsher realities of those earlier years through Monty.  Yes I know he is just a dog and the pressure to raise him so he can live a productive life and help the world and form meaningful relationships is well, not there at all. That being said the darker and harder emotions that come with a dependent, manic, ego driven being with no ability to self regulate hit me full force yesterday. the monotony of being on call, both dreading and looking forward to the end of nap time then spending hours trying to keep him entertained, out of trouble and healthy day in and day out well lets just say I was wondering if it wasn't too late to return him to the breeder. 

Unlike my precious perfect offspring, Monty lunges, bites and chews furniture when bored or tired, though one point for Monty I have yet to see him have a full blown meltdown in target because I wouldn't buy him a candy bar at the check out in front of what seemed like thousands of people at the time, but may have only been a couple dozen. But then I haven't taken him to target because it is not illegal for me to leave him home alone, though I guess leaving your dog in the car is getting close to illegal these days.  Which as they say is wild, because my mom used to leave me in a stroller outside of King Kullen when she shopped 

However Monty survived his day and so did I, which believe it or not ended with me being proud of his accomplishment!  His first day of school was a resounding success!  He was the very best dog in class. It may have helped that he threw up on the way over and was feeling pretty worn out.  He was calm and focused, unlike the other wild maniacs in class, two of which were Golden

s, the cutest dogs but they are a bundle of energy and muscles.  

Once they pulled out the agility equipment, that is where he really shined!  The ramp was so high, but he went from unsure to confident in literally a minute. He wanted to do all of the obstacles over and over again! He was so excited and not the kind of excited that leads to biting.  Maybe we do have an athlete on our hands !! 

The County Fair for the deep fried food fan

                                                                                                                                                

 Every year we go, every year we question out sanity. It is dusty, hot, dirty and deep fried but we find ourselves shelling out the ticket price which is nominal compared to the game play price, but a least now they win and as you can see, they win big. The after party made the suffering worth it as it does year in and year out. I have not sat at a bar in quite a bit of time and to sit there with my kids made it even more fun. 

But enough about those people lets discuss our newest member of the family: Monty or more formally knows as The Count of Monte Cristo. He is a good boy, but at 9 weeks old he is still a handful, cycling in and out of  2 hour naps one hour up so really I guess I should not complain. He has learned sit, working on down and learning to settle but there is no command word for it, maybe I should add that, look and find it. 

15 years and counting!

 I am feeling so encouraged, my fanbase has reached out personally to encourage my continuing with the blog, which I have done in fits and starts. One issue is that the W on my keyboard is fickle and on top of my poor spelling well it can look like a 2nd grader wrote it, but that is probably the reading level of my reader base anyway so its fair. 

It was back to  North South lake our annual camping trip to the rainiest region of the east coast, or so it seems. Of course having an RV takes the sting out of that honor. we do the same beautiful hikes and take gorgeous pictures. Since the original trip 15 years ago the size of the friend group accompanying us has diminished but I do like this smaller group.  We still have fun board and card games, drinks around the campfire.  This trip was really great because we had ALL five Bo children, albeit for different amounts of time, but still its impressive and a blast. Sunset Rock, Artist Rock, Boulder, Kaaterskill Falls all spectacular in their own way. But in the end it is the people, the laughs (Michael) the food (Steve) the artistic insight (Chris) the  daring do rock climbing (Mark) the party (Matt) the friend (Cara) and the mix of these people that bring so much joy and light into my life and to my knees in gratitude for how truly lucky I am.  

And just when things couldn't get better :

Need we say more? Rocco and Jo are deeply missed and our new boy here is never a replacement but an expression of how much love we have to share and an honor to what great dogs we have had that let us roll the dice on another bundle of love and trouble! 

Brooklyn, yes we made the long drive from RVC, NY to Brooklyn.  So hip and cool are we. We made it to an improv show at Second City which has been in operation here since 1959 and actually had acts as far back as 1842, a bit of trivia that you can now trot out as needed to impress your audiences. 

Little tables for drinks and a terrible choice of food. The drinks menu was extensive I will have to give them that.  The food menu left almost everything off. Just get the french fries, get the drinks and get going. That's my take. 

The act was good, we were wiped out when we went to this veritable institution but it delivered and we were home back in our cozy places in our cozy home by 9:30.  Winning.

 

A foriegn exchange studet? Are you crazy?

Ok, so some things have changed since this picture was taken some 8 years ago. Part of my reason for not blogging the incredible journey of this family was because I couldn't even access this account.  And forget getting pictures off of my phone or camera.  But maybe I can just do it.

Steve points out that today we sent three "senior" off to school.  The triplets are off to 5th grade, Mark dutifully handing me a thermometor to just make sure he wasn't too sick to attend.  The twins to 8th grade and Martina our newest member to her senior year of high school.

The summer had some highlights and some serious lowlights.  With the lows setting the mood for the house.  Taking on a foriegn exchange student may not have been a direct answer to this sadness, but I do think it factored in.

Preparing for Martina's arrival I at first kept it a low profile, because I though so many people would say "what are your crazy?" and for good reason.  I complain about work, taking classes and running the kids around, so what is the upside of taking on more?   Well honestly I would complain if all I had to do was lounge around the house all day eating those proverbial bon-bons..so I don't feel that the amount I complain can't be a good litmus test for descisions.

The family was on board so we wanted to try.  I like to take things on, to run the 10k, to try to learn to sew, to go on that vacation and climb that mountain.  Why? because it is there to be done.  I think I did get lucky however. Has the days counted down to arrival I had my doubts and my lost sleep..why did I do this? I know if she is a mess, it will be my fault and my fault alone, no one would want to hear my complaints they would just roll there eyes and say "what an idiot, I would have never put my family in this position"

Never having spoken to her, never. We went to pick her up on a Friday night. I stepped forward and hugged her, becuase if I was nervous how must she feel?  Then we all in turn hugged her. We were all nervous, but we plowed through and even the kids felt at ease on the ride home and were able to speak to her and Cara gave her a beanie boo that matched hers, so fast friends were made.

I think the idea is to look at this in two ways...either this is crazy to take on more work/potential problems, or this will be such a great experience for your family.  But I think at the end it is both potential problems and more work as well as a great experience.  But really isn't almost everything you take on, more work and possible a good experience?

Posts in the graveyard

This is a graveyard post. It is were I am putting the remains of not one but two great news posts.

The first is of the dog, yes a dog Rocky the Rockstar Boomer Bo. But alas I didn't even have a chance to take a picture of him before he was hospitalized with a horrible virus called Parvo. It is costing a small fortune and he is in mega bad shape. I unfortunately said ungraceful things like "the dog is half dead" which Cara is cheerfully informing everyone, which is a bit disconcerting coming from a ponytailed kindergartner. Now all you judges before you say "why would you get a dog, is your life not hard enough?" I will tell you this I as you may have discerned am not interested in gliding through life, but actually experiencing it, and all of its attended stresses and rewards. Does that or me, always look pretty or even happy as I troop through the things I take on? In a word no. But all of you glossy, well rested, unruffled people can take your boring lives, it just isn't for me. Feeling a little defensive, yes I am , how did you ever guess.

Okay graveyard post number 2, this would be that next weekend is the much anticipated move. We are still moving alright, just not where we had hoped. Instead we are off to my MIL's house. All 7 of us and our half dead puppy (I am afraid this name might stick) At least it will help us pay the vet bills. So into a 1 bedroom apt we go. It is so hard to imagine that this will happen in 7 days, when I had been so looking forward to getting into the house, buying decorating magazines and looking at pictures of stone fireplaces. We are still hoping to save the deal, but really who knows at this point?

It would be great to wrap this up with something meaningful but it is after all a graveyard and there just isn't much to say.

An old story-the pink shoe odyssey (the mall with 5 under 4)

I found this story I wrote up a long time ago, I hope you enjoy! 

I have decided to take the five kids (16 months and 3 years old at the time) along with me to buy birthday presents for two weekend birthday parties. I get the kids shoed and jacketed (if there is such a term, and even if there isn’t). I send the big boys down the stairs first, to wait in our tiny entrance way. When I had first moved from Manhattan, I couldn't stop calling it the lobby. As in “wow this is a really small lobby.” Steve would not so patiently remind me that it was not a lobby that we did not live in an apartment, and he was under no circumstances the DOORMAN. Any way some people are very sensitive about job titles, doorman, bellhop really what’s the difference. 

 I put Cara’s pink Mary Jane’s on, though I prefer her pink sneakers, I was forced by the pandemonium breaking out around me, as it often does when the shoes are brought out, to settle for the Mary Jane’s. The babies understand that the shoes mean we are leaving the house and apparently leaving the house calls for an excess of laughter, screaming, ever more feats of dangerous climbing and lots of tears.. I open the door to the den and the three 16-month-old babies run, fall down, get up, step on each other and race for the doorway, getting stuck as all three arrive to the doorway at the same time. The one who is the least able to get through, stepping back to pull on jackets and hair of the other two blockers to his or her freedom out of the way. This tactic rarely works. A few screams and a backward body slam usually send the puller down on his butt and the other two burst through to our landing, which is precariously small for three toddlers who need to turn around and get down on all fours to crawl down the stairs. There is usually one that will attempt the stair forward and needs to be seriously redirected. My goal at this point is to sit halfway down the stairs (there are only 8 steps) to slow people down and give some direction. Mikie is first to hit the stairs but 2 steps from the bottom something shiny grabs his attention and he had the audacity to STOP! Before I could move Mark literally climbed on Mikie's back shimmied down and landed first. Mikie yelled and batted at him, but he never had a fighting chance. Now we have made it down to the lobby and I am seriously fuming that the stupid doorman is not there, and he will certainly get no tip this Christmas. The babies are crowding poor Chris and Matt, who have little patience in this small space. The babies are trying to grab all the keys they see on our little key table as Chris freaks out yelling “no babies danger!” Matthew swings open the door and I swear there is a full moment when all action and noise ceases, just like in a movie. Matthew makes eye contact with me and realized a beat too late that he should not have opened the door. Matthew recovers and zooms out to catch the babies, one is making his way to the backyard, another to the street and I run out the door knowing that my only chance is to swing open the large side doors of the van. I grab the handle and it’s locked. I grab the key and unlock it.  The door screeches open.  Like that the gremlins, I mean babies, hear the door and start charging the van. Chris sees their intention at the same time as Matthew and they jump over the babies to be first. I lock all five kids into seats and put in a movie (so much for no TV under 2 how about no R-rated movies under 2? Sometimes goals must be amended).

We arrive peacefully to the mall, which includes me driving an 8-foot tall, 15 passenger van, under a bridge clearly marked 6’11”. We park outside of the garage because it is marked 7’, you would think after the bridge I would have no respect for those signs…but I am trying to be good role model some of the time. I gather everyone. Matthew and Christopher fell asleep on the way, so I am able to get the triple stroller together and put the babies in the stroller in relative calmness. The boys are great, holding carefully to the stroller as we make our way through the parking lot. It never ceases to amaze me how many people treat the parking lot like the Indy 500, as I brush off any memories of me acting the same way only a few short years ago. It is so much easier to be a self-righteous mom if you edit out any part of your life when you were not a mom. We tried to look for a gift at the Children’s place, but it is too crowded, and I give up. Oh, but there is a KB toys store. We walk in and there is a potty emergency, so we run back down the hall to the potty, thank God for family bathrooms Chris does not want to go, but I promise not to flush the toilet until we leave, and he agrees to the terms. Leaving the family potty room, the other families are stunned. I have clearly gone way overboard in my effort to fit into the “family potty room” definition. 

We get back to KB and I find the perfect gifts 2/10.00 so by perfect I mean dirt cheap and age appropriate. While shopping the big boys see that the store has a pool set up full of balls. “Can we go in?” Matt asks, "um sure". Now should I let the twins play while I shop with the triplets, or will they get stolen? Ah well they’re almost 4 they have to learn to fend for themselves some point. And though it is annoying to me and the other shopper in the store, I call out to them every five minutes and they have taken to running between me and the pool. I check out and the employees don't even bother stopping their conversation when I pay, let alone make eye contact. it appears no one really cares, and the babies need to stretch their legs too, it is only fair. Into the pool they go. All five kids are playing as if they never left the house before.  Other parents stop in and try to get their kids to play also, but it is too intimidating for the other kids. People are literally stopping in the window to watch and my kids. They bring a smile to everyone who sees them (maybe it is just a smile of relief that they are not theirs, but a smile is a smile).  After about 20 minutes I pull Mikie out, when I go to get Cara out, he dives headfirst over the edge of the inflated pool and into the balls. laughing.  Cara takes a walk and tries to leave the store, but not on Chrissy’s watch. He screams “no Cara, no don’t leave Mom, Cara is leaving!” He runs the 4 steps to her side grabs her arm, she loses her balance and falls, this does not deter Chris who drags her on her butt back to the stroller. Cara tough girl that she is, never bats an eye at being knocked over and dragged by her pink clad arm in the opposite direction of her intentions. With promises of ice cream, I get them all back into the stroller and going again. I realized at this point that Cara’s shoe is missing. Her sock is black now, and I don’t know how long the shoe has been missing. But let's face it, I don’t like those stupid shoes and one of my great parenting strengths is that I am not very detailed orientated. So, if anyone was under the impression that I would consider charging back through the mall looking for an ugly shoe you were seriously mistaken. The ice cream is bought, cones for the boys a small cup for the triplets to split. We find a nice quiet area to make loud and less nice and chow down. The boys are corralling the babies who will not wander far from the source of the ice cream anyway. Then I pack everyone up for the van. 

When we are leaving Matthew is begging to stay. I can’t blame him it was a great afternoon, and I came home with two gifts, of course I realized that I actually need two for each party, oh well.  But what is on the running board of “big”? The pink ugly Mary Jane! All I can hope now is for the doorman to be home to help me get all these kids out of the lobby.